Relationships...

~This is especially dedicated to you and to all my friends who are experiences hard time with their relationships~

These days I had quite a few friends who came to me and talked about relationship problems, either the guy/girl that they fancy never give a direct, straight forward yes or no answers or they just cannot make up the mind about who to choose. Otherwise, they are just not happy about their relationship at the moment because he/she thinks that their partner doesn't understand what he/she wants and need.

Personally I cannot see why relationship can be so complicated, the way how I see is where both of you are happy to be with each other and want to share their time together. Obviously, it must consist some kind of chemistry as well. However, the world isn't as simple as that as well all know. In a relationship, it always includes different elements, such as people and environment. However, I don't see why people need to give messages to other.

A very good example, someone will say I like to spend the time with you and I'm always happy when I spend time with you together. However, when it comes to the time to make up her mind whether if she wants to go out with this guy. She would rather choose someone else than him. I just cannot understand why she would make this kind of decision??!! Why does she needs to make things so complicated when it could be so simple.

Another example, a long distance couple where the girl finds her boyfriend doesn't understand what she wants and she is loosing faith on him. When I asked her what the problem was and all she said was when I want him to just be quiet and hear me moan, yet he gives advises and comments about it. On the other hand, where she needs him to comfort her, all he does is just providing solutions. I don't know if this is normal to all the guys, as this is something that happened to myself and I just think this is nature and normal. I don't see anything wrong when KitKit does that, perhaps I'm just used to it by now??!!

What I strongly believe is that no one is born to be without personality clashes, even with your best friend, you ain't start off without any problem. I believe that problems help to understand each other better and can help to avoid anymore personality clashes in the future. There are no perfect match for anyone (either friends or couple). I just think it takes time to build up, otherwise it wouldn't be called a relationship. The other thing I believe is in the end of the day, everyone will find their other half, it may needs awhile in order to do so, it might takes longer than other peoples needs to. However, your other half is always there and will be with you one day. It is just the matter of time before you can find your another half. And when you found him/her, it would mean is the best time, since you experienced and learned from all the crap and shit, so you know how to treasure your relationship when its there. I just want to say it to all my dear friends, don't give up and do not stop believing in love.

I know I ain't in the strongest position to say or comment on other people's relationship. And I wouldn't say I've experienced everything in the world. However my beliefs helped me in all my relationships and my experiences helped me to be a better me. I would say I'm a lucky one that I've met and found you. Thank you for everything that you have done and thank you for your love and tolerant.

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