Relationship issues

Recently when I talked to my girl friends, I just realised a lot of them having issues and problems with their relationship, which led them to break up with their boyfriends. Is it just a bad time of the year in relationship or its just time for a change? I just wonder when I hear their problems, is it us (the girls) who doesn't understand the guys or just vice versa? Or perhaps it is just relationship that wasn't going to work out in the first place but we are just too blind to spot it? I just truely wonder, what is the right element of a relationship? Communication, understanding, patient but in the same time trying not to annoy, not over reacting on anything and being able to give personal space to each other. If those are the elements of a relationship, then why are we having so many problems with it?

I just don't understand, perhaps it isn't that simple where you can explain relationship in a simple mathematic equation, or there just isn't a simple formula to explain it at all. Although personally I am not experiencing any of their problems that they are experiencing with their boyfriends, I would still think about in general what does the guys want in a relationship? To be hoenst, it is quite simple what girls want, they just want honesty, security, able to share and lean on their other halves. But what is the guys expecting from us? It will be intersting to find out.

It is quite intersting about girls and I wouldn't agree before I was in a proper relationship, girls does change for their partner. They would change in a way that they weren't expected or prepared about it. I think I am a good example, before when I was single, I would always say I am an independent girl and doesn't need to lean on someone even if I'm in a relationship. But when you are actually in one, you will be surprised how this had changed. I still remember back then I was totally shcoked by the changes that I had. I never thought or expect myself being so girly in some ways, as well as being emotions about small things, and definitely never came across myself being so attach with another person i.e. want to be with him all the time. That really surprised me. Anyways, I just wonder will guys have the similar changes in a relationship?

Although I ain't in the right position to say this but all I can say to all my girl friends, until we can really understand guys, I just think perhaps it isn't a bad idea to be single for now and try to learn about them. At least then we can hope we know a bit more about what they really want and why do they behave in a certain way.

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